We’re Getting Married!!! His + Her Q&A

In honor of the wedding being SO CLOSE, I wanted to do a Q&A to share some of the behind-the-scenes wedding details that we’re so excited about. The pictures above are also just a few of my favorites of us (that aren’t our engagement photos, as I love ALL of those. You can see them here, here and here.). All of the build up has led to this weekend and we couldn’t be more excited for it!!!

What are you most excited about after being married?

Danielle: That we’ll actually be MARRIED! We like to joke that we’ve waited our whole lives for each other haha, so now we’re just making it official. I’m excited to start this next chapter of our lives together. We’re beginning the house hunting process, so we really feel like we’re adulting.

Jake: I’m most excited about starting our life together and getting a house. We want to get a fixer upper, and I’m really looking forward to beginning that project together and making our house a home. And having a yard for the boys to run around and play in.

How many kids do you hope to have?

Danielle: This one is a touchy subject for me. I had a son a few years ago that I lost 7 months into my pregnancy due to a rare birth defect. It was an extremely traumatic experience, and it makes me very nervous to ever have another baby. I go back and forth a lot with whether or not I want to have them, and I’ve made it very clear to Jake that I may never want to because I know it’s a huge thing to not be on the same page on. We’ve agreed we won’t start making any decisions until I’m 30, so we have a few years! Really, this is 100% in God’s hands. If we do have them, Jake is adamant that we have 2 so they aren’t an only child, but it’s very up in the air at this point! Right now, our fur babies are more than enough haha.

Jake: As many as she’ll let me haha. It’s up to Danielle. But ideally, I’d say 2-3. I’d like to have a boy and a girl, and make sure they have a sibling. I loved growing up with brothers, so I want that for our hypothetical children.

Where did you meet?

Danielle: We met at a rock climbing gym! I was working there temporarily and he came in with a mutual friend who introduced us. We ran into each other a few times after that when he could come in to climb (he usually went to another gym).

Jake: We met at a climbing gym, which right off the bat gave us a mutual interest in something we both loved. It helped foster our relationship in the beginning, having something in common that we were both passionate about.

How did Jake propose?

Danielle: He gave me a custom Christmas ornament! Every year for Christmas, my family always exchanges  ornaments as one of our gifts to each other. This year was the first Christmas I ever spent away from my family, and he knows Christmas is my FAVORITE, so he made it extra special. He proposed in front of his whole family. It was so sweet. You can read the whole story here.

Jake: I proposed on Christmas Eve with a surprise present which was an ornament asking if she would marry me. When she opened the present, I got on my knee and gave her the ring, asking her to marry me. Christmas is her favorite holiday and I wanted to do it on a special day so it would be extra memorable.

Jake, what was your first thought when you saw Danielle after you found out she was single? 

Danielle: So, this question is oddly specific because it’s from my sister and she knows the backstory haha. When Jake and I first met, I was seeing someone else. But he was immediately interested and told his 2 best friends that there was something special about me. When he found out I was single, he came to find me at the gym, changing his own climbing schedule to match mine.

Jake: “FINALLY” lol. Then, “Don’t screw it up”. Then I began my master plan of cat and mouse to keep her forever. And a little bit of creeping to find out when she’d be at the gym to “run into her”.

What’s been the best part of wedding planning? The worst? 

Danielle: The best part has been the process itself. I’ve been planning my wedding in my head (and on Pinterest) since I was about 16 but actually doing it for real was so much fun. I LOVE the concept of marriage. So actually being able to make it my dream day, the way I’ve always imagined it, has actually been a dream come true. And at the end of it all, I get to marry the man of my dreams, so it’s pretty amazing and I thank God for all of my blessings every day!

The worst part is because I care so much, it gets to be stressful! It was smooth sailing until about the last 2 months when I got a liiiittle on edge. But I finished everything with a week to spare so I could actually relax. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself that it takes the fun out of the planning process!

Jake: The best part has been that as a groom, very little is required of you haha. The worst has been seeing the mental stress it caused Danielle because she wanted to make everything perfect. All the worrying that it wouldn’t go as planned, when I know deep down it will be perfect no matter what because we’re getting married.

How did you know they were “the one”?

Danielle: This probably sounds a bit odd. I went with him to his great-grandma’s funeral, and I met his extended family for the first time. After, everyone went to eat and celebrate his great-grandma’s life at his second cousins house. While we were there, a feeling just hit me like “this is my new family”. I felt very comfortable around all of these people I had just met for the first time, in what would typically be a very uncomfortable situation (for anyone, but I really don’t handle death well). I just knew I would see all of them again, and that meant Jake was my future husband. That was about 3 months into our relationship and I knew with 100% certainty after that.

Jake: It was very apparent early on that we were really similar in so many ways that I began to realize that we were just made for each other. I knew she was something special because of how excited I got every time I saw her, and how good she made me feel. She tried to break up with me pretty early on because she was afraid and had just gotten out of a bad relationship, and I just told her, “no, this is the real deal, we’re doing this”. And that was it…10 months in, I was down on one knee.

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We are so excited to get married and spend or lives together! Thank you for reading along and being a part of our journey!

XO,

Dani

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We don’t need to overthink things so much. It just causes unnecessary stress. I do like to plan ahead because it saves me time, but I also should have realized sooner that the dress I was trying to make work just wasn’t working. Even though I love that dress, it doesn’t flatter me how I want it to and it might be time to let it go. Don’t be afraid to let go of things that don’t give you exactly what you need. You don’t have to settle, something else will always come along. Or you probably already have something else in your closet (or life, this isn’t limited to clothes!) that’s even better than what you’re trying to make work!
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By removing the things and people that don’t make me happy, I have more time and energy for the things that do that I used to put off and not prioritize like I should have. We spend so much of our lives being “busy”. But what are we busy with? Most of it is actually unimportant when you break it down. .

I say no to things much more now and that allows me to spend more of my time relaxing and enjoying life. I used to constantly feel rushed or like I should be doing something. If I wasn’t moving, I felt like I was wasting my time. But the truth is, resting and just being home with Jake and the boys is my happy place. It brings me so much joy, so that’s what my priority is. .

Having more time to just BE has been amazing. Being more picky in my relationships has helped me really value the ones I hold most dear and has brought me to an amazing new job because I wasn’t willing to settle for anything less. Respect yourself and your time and prioritize the things that matter most to you. Life’s too short to live any other way.
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Now, I spend way less time on social media. I deleted Facebook off my phone and haven’t  looked at it in weeks. I’m much happier without it. I read a lot more. I’m getting much better at ignoring the impulse to pick up my phone and when I am on it, to compare my life to the perfect pictures people post. I even cut a few inches off my hair! 💇🏻‍♀️ I want things as easy as they can be right now. It takes a lot of stress out of my life. Try to go a whole weekend without social media and see how awesome it feels!

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